Okay, I'm being really transparent here, but I am needing some sort of advice... my son has a biting problem and is very aggresive with other kids his same age or younger.
He got kicked out of the nursery this morning for bitting 3 KIDS!!!??!!! (Ok, not "kicked out" , I got paged & he had been removed from the room waiting on me to pick him up...you feel like the worst mom EVER in that moment.... it's like going to the principals office as a kid! haha....)
I do NOT understand why or what his reason is or what instigates his behavior because he doesn't bite at home. This has been going on for a while off and on, and just when I think it's gotten better, he starts biting again...
He is starting preschool this week as well, and I have already been stressing over how he will behave in the classroom and now today happened! Not a good start to our week....
ANY ADVICE YOU READERS HAVE FOR BITING or just aggressive boy behavior.... I am open to hear it.
Please leave me a comment!
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You poor thing...he got kicked out? I love your wording. I understand how stressed you would be. I would be the same way. I know it's just a phase but going through it is so hard! I think just disciplining consistently like with everything else will stop the action. Like I said, it's just a phase. He won't be 10 years old and still biting people. I have to remind myself of that daily. You look great girl! Love keeping up with you through your blog.
so very sorry you are dealing with this.. it seams like it would be so difficult to correct. Audrey hasn't had this problem (yet)... but my mom says I did as a toddler - and my aunt actually bit me back really hard after I had bitten one of her boys and she said I never did it again. I am not recommending biting sweet Parker at all.. I just thought it was a funny story! ;)
I don't know whether this is the answer or not. But my middle child after trying multiple other things we ultimately ended up biting her back. We obviously didn't bite her as hard as she had biten the other child but we did bite back. All it took was that one time and she never bite again.
I've never read your blog before but I was checking Kenzie's and saw the title to this post and just had to see what you needed help with. I myself also have a very aggressive boy. He doesn't bite, but he hits and pushes and occasionally draws blood. Very, very discouraging!! I know how you feel. We've been dealing with this for a year...a very long year. For awhile I dealt with the behavior in a consistent manor, but I didn't start seeing much change until be began dealing with his HEART! Just a couple of things we did:
1. Pray at night for a "heart of obedience" and give him an opportunity to tell Jesus he's sorry for what he's done. For a long time I would ask him if he could think of anything he needed to tell Jesus he was sorry for and he never came up with anything, I would have to give him suggestions. But one day it just clicked and now he does a pretty good job. Never to early to start confessing those sins.
2. We started memorizing scripture. He just turned three and I didn't really think he could do it, but he can. We started with easy stuff like "Be kind to one another." and now we've moved on to "children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right..." We're having him memorize scripture that deals with the sin in his life. He hasn't asked Jesus into his heart yet (still a little young for that) but I know that he is starting to become more aware of how God desires for him to act, not just mommy and daddy.
3. Read Bible stories and relate them to his behavior. For example; we just read a book about Noah (Noah and the Ark, Beginner's Bible, Step into Reading Book) and we talked a lot about how Noah and his family were nice and used kind words and didn't hit and God let them get on the boat. All the mean people who yelled and pushed and hit people had to stay out in the rain.
I know this got a little long, but I just want to encourage you and let you know that I've been there and I still am to a degree. But God gave you that sweet little boy because he knew that you would be the best mommy for him and he will give you the wisdom to handle it!!
Just bite him back. Seriously, catch him in the act, bite him, and then ask him how it makes him feel. Simple, practical, done with it.
*I'm not afraid to endorse this technique :)
Jennifer!
We have so been there!!! While we were still at Woodstock and in multiple services, Addie went thru a time where she was biting almost every week!! Sometimes every service ! My dad would even joke about it from the pulpit! Even that much more embarassing!
Anyways, we bought the book "teeth are not for biting" and read it like 3 times a day to her then I would just warn every childcare worker to really keep an eye on her b/c she obviously had a temper and it finally stopped!
I do feel your pain!
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