I appreciate all of the advice that has been given today... some of the things I have tried (Yes, I've bitten him back...but that obviously was not effective with him!)... so tonight I tried the advice from my good friend Hollie about the books; "Teeth are not for biting." While I was at Barnes & Noble I discovered they also had a book "Hands are not for hitting".... (which we also have a problem with in sharing). So I picked both of these up and we read them tonight before bed. He just kept saying "No bite, no no!"
But he has said that before.... you see, whenever I sit him in time out for bitting or hitting, I always ask him before he can get up, "Parker, now why are you in time out & what are our rules?"
And he will answer, "No bite." or "No hit."
I try to keep it consistant and simple but this is obviously going to be a long phase for us!
But how adoreable is this precious little face?!?! This is the little boy that I am use to 99% of the time! 
But I so appreciate you girls advice thus far... anything else I am open to try as well! :)
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Jennifer, I'm about to offer advice that I have never implemented with my child yet, but give us a year, I'm sure I'll be here. BUT, I would implement a reward system. I would keep it very simple to start with, but I would make a Parker only poster, maybe with balls, toys, stickers or whatever. Explain that he will get a sticker (and I would do boy-related stickers) if he does not hit or bite at school. When he gets two stickers (and it may take a while) then he gets a very special treat. (Like maybe he gets to go to Sonic all by himself with just mommy or just daddy to get an ice cream). Then once he gets the hang of how fun it will be to get a treat, you can up the sticker count. Good Luck!!!!
That's a great idea, Jill! We did a sticker chart for potty training and it worked marvelous... My little stinker (2 1/2 yrs old) runs to the time-out chair anytime he does something bad. He could care less about it and/or spankings. We may give this reward system a try at our house as well.
Hi Jennifer - I came to your site from Kenzie Stanfield’s, and had to laugh at your predicament. I've got three kids and went through the biting stage with two of them – both boys! I think it was a stage they went through because they couldn't properly express themselves.
I've read Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel, we have the If-Then/Blessings Charts from www.doorposts.net, I've done the whole Dobson thing, etc...Discipline that worked for one didn't work for the other – that’s tough when you have to start back at square 1 just when you think you have it “figured out”. However, I can testify that I lived through it, and it will get better. Through lots of prayer, consistent discipline and rewarding positive behavior it finally just went away one day and never returned – woo-hoo! And as far as the embarrassment at preschool, we've all been there with one kid or another - or will be there. I just posted an entry a few days ago called "Other" in regards to this very subject. Feel free to stop by and make yourself feel better by realizing you're not alone - www.houseofstephens.blogspot.com.
By the way – Parker is an absolute doll. Sounds like he’s going to rely on that cuteness to get him out of a lot! My little guy sure does!
Blessings,
Allyson Stephens
Hey Jennifer!! Ok...we were in the same position as you are with Landon. I know exactly how you feel! I was so embarrassed so many times, and it was hard because he never acted like this at home. Here is what we did...I don't know if Parker has a favorite show that he likes to watch, but Landon loves The Little Einsteins. I would always let him watch a show while I cooked dinner. So...every morning before going to school, I would tell him that if he bit or hit one of his friends then he wouldn't get to watch. I just kept repeating it over and over. I also told him that we don't bite or hit our friends...that it makes them sad. It took a couple of days for him to realize that he wasn't going to get to watch and then all of a sudden he stopped hitting and biting. I would pick him up and he would run to me and tell me that he was a good boy and that he gets to watch the show. It was so cute!! I also like of idea of the reward system...you could probably use this along with threatening to take something away! I agree...that it just has to be a phase, it's just a hard one for us to have to go through. Good luck with it...and know that you are not alone!!!
Jenn, that face is priceless!!!! I don't have a lot of advice, b/c I still think its precious when Eli hits at me(I'm biased) but I know Jill will nip that in the bud soon, obviously with this little system she has whipped up! But you are right, that precious face is too much!!! What a cutie!
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